I haven't flown much..but have had bad experiences too...
I don't know why they have to be so mean at the security checks... Making people rush, shoving your bags through, making you scamble to get your belts and shoes back on... no respect for what you may have in your carry-ons, like cameras and anything else breakable which is the whole REASON you take them on your carry-ons. :evil:
They are just being jerks, because they can, as far as I am concerned.
As for the search....not near as bad as your's but when we went to the "Ellen Show" in LA, they haul everything out of your purse and bags... Just as bad as the airport... lol